But if I assign a problem to someone else; then the range of possibility for me is 0. All I can do is wait and see how everything plays out and observe. Actually, I have taken this approach for a period in my life and I can see that it did serve as a middle ground on my way to here.......
There was a time when I got all upset and spun around problems...mine and everyone elses. Not that I took responsibility but rather it was more about assigning blame and ranting about someone else having caused it and them needing to solve it all. After wearing myself out and having some self awareness; the first thing I did was to start to accept everything ....... There is a little prayer that had a big impact upon me.
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference."
I'm not sure who gets credit for this little prayer..... most people have heard it before. I probably heard it many times before the time I really heard it. At some point, everything lined up and I was ready to get off the "blame and redemption" cycle I was on. Though I feared that taking responsibility for my life and everything in it would render me a failure; it's turning out that accepting responsibility opens the door for me to be soft, intuitive, compassionate, creative and helpful.
Acceptance of everything was an important step for me.......expanding the range of possibility to limitless is my new quest. Now it turns out that once I have that acceptance, I can move all the way to the other side and see my opportunity to take responsibility and know that........
The more I can see myself as responsible the more those boundaries stretch and thin out and
more and more possibility emerges!