We regularly pass our energy through non living things. While a pinting is not living or breathing but hanging on a wall, we can walk up to it and cause it to come alive at that moment merely by beholding it. As we relate to the painting our own energy begins to return to us as it flows out and some relationship develops for us with the painting...whether it is appreciation or aversion or something in between.
Between two people, it's a bit more complicated as we are attempting to manage our own outgoing energetic connection at the same time as receiving energy from someone else. Each person is trying to manage input and output at the same time either looking for common ground or the upper hand or merely survival.
The human body is not a dense enough membraine to contain our energy; it resides from our center to at least a few inches outside the boundary of our skin. Often this is great news. We love to share and partake in positive energy; there are people we count on to lift us up and show us a positive outlook. And, it feels great to offer some positive energy to a friend or even a stranger when they are in need.
On the other side of that coin lay our challenge. We all have at least some problematic energy. Mostly, we hope it will stay neatly tucked inside ourselves....in our heads or hearts or guts where it's been for as long as we can remember. But as much as we'd like this to be true, we know it's impossible. More often that not, everyone knows when this stuff comes up for us. How to save the world, our friends and ourselves from this?
If the answer were as simple as denial, we'd be in great shape!! For most of us, denial is the mode we're already in.
If the answer were "faking it", we'd also be in pretty good shape most of the time.
But the thing about our energy is that it matches what we believe. It reveals the ultimate truth about the ways we see ourselves, others, the world and even the universe. There is no amount of avoiding, denying or faking that can alter this fact.
And we cannot turn it off
What can we do?
Work with it. Recognize what is going on. Get to the source. Find a practice that allows us to contact who we really are. Shine some light on the darkness. Develop positive, kind, patient, loving beliefs toward ourselves, others and the world.
Pema Chodron teaches a few practices which are very helpful...my favorite one is called compassionate abiding
The quality of our beliefs determine the quality of our energy which will determine the quality of our relationships.